Question:Please explain the main purpose one should seek in marriage, and mention the characteristics of a spouse who could bring us to this goal. Answer: Not only in marriage, but also in all other stages of life, one should have a major goal, namely to obey Allah (SWT) and to gain proximity towards Him. This is mainly because any other goal is transient and futile, and will eventually experience annihilation.
Martyrdom of Imam Ali - Amir al-Mu'minin (PBUH)
We are each faced with the concept of “choices” in life, where we must choose among two or more options. Being faced with the options to choose a partner, spouse, or friend is an unstoppable phenomenon for all. The important factor however is that the choices be made based on the proper standards. The Infallible Imams (PBUT) have identified the proper criteria when faced with choices.